I’m not going to lie, this one is a hard one. Loving others seems to flow so effortlessly for most of us, yet when it comes to loving ourselves we are immediately hit with a wall of doubt. Am I being too conceited? Will I offend someone? What would people think of me? Is it arrogant to set boundaries? And is it really okay to love myself?
No, you are not being conceited. Yes, you will offend some. No, it doesn’t matter what others think. Yes, it’s healthy and necessary to set boundaries. But above all else, YES, it’s okay to love yourself. You need to love and care for yourself to be healthy, to be happy, to flourish and grow.
Whatever vibration we align ourselves with is the message that we are sending out to the universe and the universe mirrors back our energy 100% of the time. So, if we are in a state of self love and caring we are telling the universe to send us that exact energy back. However, on the flip side if you’re depleting, exhausting or hurting yourself with your choices; whether they be people, health or entertainment, you will be getting exactly that sent back to you.
Our choices, thoughts and actions create vibrations and these vibrations are essentially a code or language telling the universe what we want. So when something isn’t going the way you need it to in your life it’s time to turn inwards. See how you’re treating yourself or what you think about yourself and then change what thoughts and actions are no longer in harmony with how you want to feel. Once you’ve taken this step internally it’s inevitable that it will begin manifesting externally. You will notice that you no longer have the space for certain people or behaviours in your life and you will feel drawn to take actions to move away from what no longer serves you.
So be choosy, say no and be proud to love yourself.